I
always believed that people who smoke, who drink, who dope or who have been in
multiple relationships are the ones I should be staying away from, I know it was
such a silly thought of mine. But time and experience have proved me wrong, though
I would state that I won’t vouch for it. The impulse to judge others is an
innate process in all of us, and is a substratal footing for many vital elements
in our lives. It doesn’t matter how much ever well you choose to live
your life there will be someone to judge you with either good or bad motives.
I’m
not stating that I'm flawless and have never been sorry for judging others. There have been far
too many incidents where I goofed up because of my quick judgment or rather I am afraid to say
that it’s been based on my prejudice and bias towards some people which eventually led to my losing out on potential good friends. But when I judge
someone, I don't feel good about myself not even for a while. For a fact I wouldn't
want anybody gossiping about me and I've always held on to the teaching of
treating others how I want to be treated. I just wish that we would take a minute
to have a check about how our opinions, statements and logics can have an impact
on another person.
Nobody
likes to be judged because no one else can fully understand our predicament or
why we do it or what for we do it. It’s not rare to hear or to find ourselves
saying “You just don’t understand,” or “Try walking a while in my shoes.” we
believe that no one is fully qualified to judge our behavior. And it’s undeniable
that no mere mortal can exactly judge each and every deed we execute.
Not
all judgments are bad or misguiding or insane. But many of them are. Being
Judgmental can be good in instances when we are doing it for our personal
improvement or when our manager or mentor is judging our performance and giving
feedback for our improvement. In our life decisions are inevitable; sometimes many
of these will be associated with making a judgment about our fellow human being. It seems to me that
what's crucial is to be open to other opinions too and to recheck them if
possible to know whether you can take them into your life. Also, it’s advisable
to pay heed to other people’s opinion; we might end up learning something.
My
point is, judgments are neither good nor bad. They are indeed a weapon to be
used, to mould us into a better person.
P.S: So my suggestion for the week ahead
(because I need to do this myself!): P
Judge with integrity and guide what can be more appropriate.
Judge
to extract the best out of everyone.
Judge
to inspire people, knowing the fact that every one of us has the equal right to
live our life.
Judge not to shatter people, it reflects our insecurity.
Judge not to shatter people, it reflects our insecurity.
Judge neither
to pull someone down nor to cast them aside.
Keep
in mind that when you point a finger there are three fingers pointing back at
you. Be compassionate to yourself and to others J
